I've a LJ newb, so hopefully this works. I've known I had a gender issue since I was very young, and have held these feelings in for years I guess in hopes that it would go away or that i could deal with it. I'm now to the point where I can't really deal with it and have started seeing a therapist and am trying to move forward with happiness. I've been married for 3 years, have two daughters (2, and 4). I have a huge problem with confrontation, and some friends have recommended I write a letter and have my wife read it in my presence. Here is my attempt, please be kind.
I am writing this to tell you about a problem I've been dealing with since childhood. For years I have attempted to deal with this problem unsuccessfully. It is to the point where it is causing me much anxiety, and you deserve to know. I cannot continue holding this in and hiding the issue. This is very difficult for me to write and tell you, but you need to know, because I love you. For all of my life I have had a gender issue. I have always hid the feelings hoping it would go away. I have always thought I should have been born female. I never wanted to be this way, I just want to be happy. I want to be happy for you, and for redacted and redacted.