I've tried breaching this subject with Mom at a few different times, and she just says "Oh it's no big deal, it's your name." I want to tell her that yes, this is a big deal, and I would appreciate being called, if not Alison, at least SN. So this is the letter I'm going to send, and feedback would be very appreciated:
Hi Mom,
I told you I'm transgender on Thanksgiving Day, and I think you'd been suspecting it far prior to that. But ever since then, you've been calling me FGBN more and more. Maybe this is an unconscious response, maybe you're doing it on purpose, I don't know, but it really worries me that you won't be accepting of my transition. Could you please make an effort to call me, if not Alison, then SN, and raise the issue with family as well? I feel threatened when I'm referred to as FGBN because it forces me into a gender which I am not.
Thank you,
Alison
Also, do you have any advice in this situation? My dad was writing a letter to my nephew for his first birthday, and he asked me to proofread it because English isn't his first language. In the letter he used the word "gentleperson" and I was like, "Dad, I'd use 'gentleman' here because 'gentleperson' is a stilted neologism and sounds icky." To which Dad replied, in not these exact words, "I'm just leaving open the possibility that he be like you."
What is that supposed to mean? Does it mean that dad knows because mom told him, because I sure as hell didn't tell dad.
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